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Social Skills Training Can Positively Impact Your Life
Millions of people become anxious and insecure when speaking in public, starting a conversation, or mingling with others in a social setting.
There are a large number of individuals who are extremely successful in their professional lives, but tend to shy away from meeting new people, attending social functions, and interpersonal communication.
Social skills training can help you overcome obstacles and develop positive habits and social abilities…
1. Those wanting to improve their ability to communicate and their level of confidence through social skills training are increasing in number.
Developing and expanding your social skills is perhaps the most important thing you can do for yourself, both professionally and personally.
Speaking effectively, holding up your end of any conversation, establishing new relationships, and building confidence are just some of the personality traits that can be built upon through better social skills.
2. Improving your Social skills will allow you to understand the impact a lack of social skills can have on your life, determine the personality traits that cause you to feel uncomfortable in social settings, and give you the tools you need in to become confident and comfortable in any situation.
You can learn to resolve conflicts, the art of negotiation, and how to easily carry on a conversation either individually or in a group.
If you find yourself avoiding large social gatherings or you are reluctant to meet new people, social skills training can be very beneficial to both your private and professional lives.
3. Learning new social skills involves learning to communicate effectively, adapting to various social and professional situations, interpreting the body language of others and improving your own body language, and learning to handle adversity and rejection in a positive manner.
Failure to develop adequate social skills can lead to negative feelings, self-doubt, and low self-esteem. If you are among the many who would like to improve your ability to communicate with others in a positive manner, social skills training can provide you with valuable information and teach you techniques that will allow you to excel in social settings and in your professional life.
4. Flexibility, understanding, and the ability to communicate effectively are the most important factors in improving your social skills.
Developing better social skills can help you conquer your fears of social situations, teach you the correct ways to communicate with others, and help you understand how to resolve conflict and overcome adversity.
A lack of or underdeveloped social skills can lead to isolation, loneliness, and frustration. Do not be afraid to take the first step in improving your life and relationships with others.
You can learn to speak in front of large groups without feeling anxious, start new or improve your existing relationships with family and co-workers, and exhibit a positive, confident attitude.
Improving your social skills requires dedication and the desire to change your own negative behaviors. You can dramatically increase your ability to communicate and influence others if you learn to change your own negative behaviors and build upon the positive.
Understanding, good communication, interpreting body language, and conflict resolution skills can advance your career and personal life to levels you never thought possible.
Social skills training can be done in groups or individually depending on your needs and the method you choose to assist you in improving upon your skills.
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Making The Connection: Tips For Getting Noticed
Chances are that you have had a wide variety of experiences in your quest for meeting singles. These can range from an event that yields several nice interactions and at least one offer to get together for a date, to going home feeling frustrated and convinced you are destined to be a dating failure.
If you had made a note of your mood, your general attitude, your level of comfort, (and other related factors) after each experience, you would have some very useful information. For the attributes you carry along with you to these social gatherings will have a great impact on the outcome of each.
The following are tips for helping you to present the best you to others. As you read each, do a quick inventory of how you rate in that area. It’s always helpful to ask friends to weigh in with their observations. The more information, the better.
1. Present yourself as confident and in possession of a healthy self-esteem.
In general, people are attracted to those who appear confident and who feel good about themselves. Certainly, this is a turn-on for you as well. If you feel desirable and sexy, it makes sense that others will too.
If low self-esteem is a problem for you, this should be the first area you work on in yourself. It is not necessary to have over the top confidence, just a sense that you are someone that has a lot of positives to offer others.
Do some reading, take a class that teaches assertiveness and/or practice daily affirmations. Remember also that when you treat yourself with respect and adhere to healthy boundaries with others, you will foster a healthy sense of self.
2.Be Yourself
NEVER try to be someone you are not. Not only do you come across as insincere, you also will present as uncomfortable and make others feel this way right along with you.
Trying to be cool, aggressive, (etc.), generally just makes you awkward and unapproachable. Relax, be natural, be the you that your friends and others who know and like you, see and appreciate.
Think back to the times you have witnessed someone “acting” in a social situation, and the general reaction of those around them. Then think about the people you know who are good at meeting others. These are the people who present their true (best) side.
3. Smile and Show Enthusiasm
Certainly you have encountered strangers who were sullen and appeared negative and unapproachable. A smile can change all that.
Have an open and inviting expression. Make good eye contact. People are DRAWN to others like this. Let that attractive stranger know you are open to meeting them and happy to be there. If they have an interest back, this will pave the way for a first interaction.
If you don’t feel like smiling it may be a good idea to sit this one out at home with a movie or a good book or a low-key get together with a good friend.
4. Present Your Best Appearance
Always make your best effort in your grooming and choice of clothing. Attractive is just that. It’s not about having beautiful features or a fantastic body. It’s all about presenting what you have in the best light possible.
This also includes presenting an attractive personality. Be friendly, not pushy. Be open, not indiscreet. Have opinions, don’t be a know-it-all. Always remember to consider others’ feelings and needs. These interactions are not just about you.
5. Have Some Good Openings Lines Available
Hint: Natural conversation is best.
Some possible ones to consider:
*Do you know so and so?
*I noticed you were enjoying the music a lot, isn’t this a great band?
*Your drink looks good- what is it?
*I noticed you standing here alone and thought you may want some company.
Of course, the direct approach is ok too.
*Hi, I’m so and so, what is your name?
Remember that there are no rules anymore about who goes first. If you see someone who interests you, go for it. Just remember that they may not return your feelings. Then you move away gracefully, look around for someone else that attracts you, and make an overture towards them.
Also remember that rejection is part of the process. If you let the fear keep you from taking that first step, you will greatly lessen your chances of meeting and connecting with compatible singles.
Toni Coleman, MSW is a licensed psychotherapist and relationship coach with over 20 years of experience. As a recognized expert, Toni has been quoted in many local and national publications including: The Chicago Tribune and The Orlando Sentinel newspapers and Family Circle, Woman’s Day, and Star magazines. She has been featured on ABC News; Discovery Health Channel and AOL Online. As a weekly contributing commentator on the KTRS Radio Morning Show, (St. Louis, MO), Toni offers dating tips and relationship advice in response to listener feedback. Toni founded Consum-mate.com in 2002 to offer singles the knowledge and tools they need to find and sustain healthy, lasting love relationships. She is a member of The International Coach Federation, and The International Association Of Coaches.
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