Posts Tagged ‘possibilities’
How Do You Choose To Deal With Your Life?
“It’s choice ? not chance ? that determines your destiny.” –Jean Nidetch
It is not what happens to us in our lives that is important, but how we choose to deal with it. ‘Stuff happens’, as the saying goes. So what do you do about it?
Realizing that you have a choice is the first step. Lost your job? You can chose to dwell on the past and the ‘I wish it hadn’t happened’, or you can pick yourself up, dust yourself down and think ‘It’s happened. What can I do now?’ Choose to change the way you think. Take notice ? hear what your intuition is telling you ? listen and pay attention.
What are your alternatives? What are your options? Make a decision. Your decision. Other people’s ‘negative reactions’ belong to them. Choose not to absorb them as your own. Maintain your own integrity and choose to follow the path to your ideal future. What do you need to learn? Who do you need to know? What do you need to do? There is always a range of possibilities to choose from. Now is the time to decide which ones are right for you. It is up to you. Be in charge of yourself. Choose to stop apologizing or making excuses. Don’t disconnect yourself from what you truly want ? don’t compromise if your instincts are screaming for you to follow another path.
Through conscious and subconscious choices the control of your life is in your hands. Even choosing to do nothing, change nothing, is still a choice. Choose to invest in yourself ? because you are worth it ? time, emotion, money and respect. No one else will value you unless you choose to value yourself.
Kate Harper is based in the beautiful Highlands of Scotland. Check out her website http://www.harpercoaching.com
She works with people who are fed up with moaning about their lives and have decided to do something about it. If that is you, please have a look at her website. She is happy to work with people from any part of the world.
“The distance is nothing; it is only the first step that is difficult.” Madame Marie du Deffand
Take your first step today and contact Kate.
4 Steps to Inspired Goal Setting
At the beginning of the year, there’s often an orgy of goal setting. People get into a collective frenzy about setting personal and professional goals.
Traditional goal setting often doesn’t work because we are not in vibrational harmony with our goals. The feelings we have about our goals aren’t aligned with our thoughts. So we often effort and take too much action before we’ve properly aligned our feelings and beliefs.
Here are 4 Steps to Inspired Goal Setting.
1. Know why you want the goal
Many of us to becoming specific about our goals way too early. We haven’t felt the essence of why we want what we want. We really need to feel our desire about our goals.
What is it we really want; more time to spend with loved ones, space, a sense of aliveness, pleasure, joy. If we don’t know why we want what we want, then all the action in the world won’t make any difference.
You could also call it the Vision Thing. To have a bigger vision regarding our lives puts goal setting in context and makes them far easier to achieve. If your goal is a “have to” “must” or an “ought to”, then it aint gonna happen. You joined that gym because you “had to” lose weight and how often did you go?
2. Gain clarity about your desire
Haven’t you already done that? Well, partially. You can only set personal and professional goals for yourself. If your desire isn’t there, then it aint happening:.)
If your goals aren’t crafted with your true desires in mind, then they’ll go unfulfilled and/or self sabotage is often the result. It’s important to be excited by the possibilities that working towards your goal will bring.
Also, cultural and social expectations often shape our goals as to what we think we can have as opposed to what we actually want – so need to gain clarity about what is truly your desire and what belongs to other people.
You’ll never be able to do enough to satisfy other people, so stick to satisfying yourself.
3. The Specification
Once you’ve ramped up your desire and feelings about the goal, here is where the SMART model (S = Specific, M= Measurable A= Action orientated R= Realistic, T= Time based) comes in. Write down your specification in rich feeling detail and then…………
4. …………. Let Go
That’s right. Let go of your judgements, your timing of when it should happen, your attachment to the outcome looking the way you think it ought to look.
Letting go means that you stop efforting and yearning and waiting. This frees you up so that you are not wedded or attached to a specific outcome, but let the Universe deliver.
From here you start to use your intuition and take inspired action. Inspired action is effortless. You take action from a place of feeling good.
It opens you up to receiving ideas, opportunities and different kinds of assistance. You may find yourself drawn to call someone, or someone contacts you out of the blue. For some reason you take a different route to work and you see something that gives you an idea.
You do less as more comes to you. You stop “having” to do things and end up effortlessly achieving your goals.
And if you don’t achieve your goal(s)……………………..
Reframe it – maybe the Universe was telling you that this wasn’t the right path and was leading you to something better, even though you didn’t always see it at the the time. Hasn’t that often happened in your experience?
Follow the above process and you’ll find yourself achieving your goals with much more ease and joy.
Julie Plenty helps creatively self employed people prosper by using the Law of Attraction, because they ARE their business. For more self empowerment and Law of Attraction articles, and to sign up for her Life Design newsletter, visit:
How To Know If Interior Design Is Right for You
Have you ever seen a beautiful house or office building and wondered who did the work? Have you ever wished that you could do some of the work that you’ve seen elsewhere? Many people wonder what it would be like to be an Interior Designer, but they rarely ever go beyond thinking about it.
If you really want to know if Interior Design is right for, this book will be your comprehensive guide to the ins and outs of the business. In this book, you will learn what it takes to be an Interior Designer, what it costs to get certified, you will get all the techniques on how to get started, and much, much more.
An interior Designer is a consultant. You are there to design an environment as well as explaining to your client what the project will entail and what you will need to do to make it a success. You must educate your client about interior design.
You have obviously given the idea of being an Interior Designer serious thought or you wouldn’t be reading this. Of course, like most people, you are probably wondering whether or not it is the right choice for you. I can guarantee you, that after you’ve read this, you will know for sure if Interior Design is the right career choice for your future.
Interior Design can be a very lucrative career choice for the right person. You might be wondering exactly what an Interior Designer does. It is really simple. An Interior Designer creates, organizes, and designs commercial and/or residential properties. Basically, an interior designer works with the interior of a particular space, such as rooms, offices, boardrooms, and various other internal spaces. Here is a list of some of the places that interior designers can work in.
* Hotels
* Banks
* Restaurants
* Stadiums
* Arenas
This doesn’t seem very broad, but think of all of the other types of homes and businesses that I didn’t mention. The possibilities are truly endless in this field. Interior Designers do more than just decorate a space. In some cases they can add extra rooms, design patios and gazebos, add or remove wall space, and they spend a great deal of time networking with people.
Interior Designers are responsible for creating a comfortable and relaxed space for their clients to live and/or work in. It is your duty to provide the best work that fits your clients requirements and budget. People put a great deal of trust in you, and you must reward that with the best final result possible.
Rosemary Leake is an Independent Consultant with Southern Living at Home. Inspired by Southern Living magazine, our exclusive home décor line brings warmth and style to every room of your home! Visit Rosemary’s Interior Design website for more articles and resources – http://www.newsletterjournal.com. Also get your FREE Mini-Report: “A Complete Guide To Interior Design.”
The Secret to Staying Centered and Happy in a Troubled World
Many of us are probably so used to crisis in the world that it has become a natural part of our mental scenery. We’ve grown accustomed to living in a world where acts of bitter conflict, unrest, and inhumanity are everyday things, and their constant contradiction with our essential values almost seems normal.
But are we really aware of the effect that these daily messages have on our minds and attitudes, on our inner life? How do we deal with our real feelings about the war, terrorism, the elections, the environment, and other issues? Do we even know those feelings are, aside from our general opinion? It’s surprisingly easy to carry silent resentment, fear, and deep anxiety about these things without even realizing it.
Everyone knows it’s important for any individual to stay balanced, but how can one do it when the pressure is on, when one is assaulted by negative messages from all sides?
Get in Touch with yourself.
People are usually much more willing to analyze an external issue and give opinions than to look inside themselves. Take a moment to get in touch with your inner response to a much talked about and urgent current event. Use some adjectives to describe your personal way of relating to the events you are aware of, and write them down on a piece of paper. Do you feel concerned, combative, hopeful, disgusted, despondent or numb? Are the feelings obvious or vague? Allowing your feelings to become clear to you gives you more power to influence them.
Decide what gets inside your head.
Every day, Americans are bombarded by information from advertisements and the media. Maybe in years past, news about world events used to come at a slower pace, often by word of mouth, but nowadays it’s easy to overdose before finishing breakfast, on information about events occurring on the other side of the world.
Just as you make choices about the foods you eat, be judicious about what you allow to enter your mind. What you hear and see affect what you think, and what you think over time determines the quality and substance of your life. How necessary is it to read the entire newspaper every day, or to listen to and share office or family gossip? What other possibilities can you think of for your valuable time?
Train yourself to consistently stay on guard, and watchful of the external messages constantly contending for your precious attention. Make it a point to actively allow or deny them entrance, according to your best judgment. Over time, this kind of work on yourself will help you be freer of the invasion of external messages, and to help you think more clearly and precisely.
Invest in your personal Vitality (Wind your Clock)
Much like a car depends on gas, everything you do in life is made possible by your level of vitality or energy, especially the decision to remain inwardly balanced and happy. Surprisingly, your energy comes from many more sources than just the food you eat.
For example, in Hypsoconsciousness by John Baines, a book of consciousness-developing exercises, the author describes a consciousness building exercise where the individual moves very slowly and carefully, in a relaxed manner, mentally concentrating on the movement. Any physical movement (such as writing or walking) works and is performed at an exaggeratingly slow pace for five to ten minutes, and sometimes more. After practicing this exercise, you should feel an increase in vitality, presence, and greater mental clarity. Try this exercise when you feel fatigued, and see how it makes you feel.
Take life as a Challenge
When life is taken as a healthy challenge, difficulties seem more like an engaging game; it becomes more intense, joyful, and real. To spend most of our lifetime fearfully avoiding problems ultimately doesn’t work, because fear contaminates our every act, and in the end, we have to deal with even more problems. Things take a different color when we accept difficulties as normal, patiently work through them, and don’t assign so much negative emotional weight to them. This takes development of the will.
Try this suggestion: Set one small goal for yourself this week. For example, if you hate washing dishes, set yourself the challenge of washing the dishes with a light, cheery attitude for the entire week. If you tend to be shy around people, go to a party with the specific aim of chatting comfortably with a few strangers. Whether you succeed or not, if you take the right attitude with this exercise, you will see yourself and your possibilities differently. Remember to take small steps – making the challenge too difficult or too easy defeats the purpose.
Seeing the Big Picture
Have you ever been positively influenced by a person who had some quality you admired? Sometimes just one well balanced and positive person can affect a great number of people just by the way he or she “is”. It’s been said: “If you want to change the world, start with yourself.” Though it’s tough to accept at first, each of us who is concerned about the world can make a contribution with our own development, with our own growth. It’s easy to feel powerless in the face of negative events on a global scale, to give up, to contaminate each other with opinions, or to avoid how we feel. These things only make matters worse, on the inside and out. The most potent tool each person has for attaining genuine happiness is his or her potential for self development, and the greater the number of people who work on themselves, the greater the effect on the world.
Junod Etienne is a Seminar Presenter at the Institute for Hermetic Philosophy in New York. The ideas and exercises in this article originate from the Teachings of philosopher and author Dario Salas Sommer, who writes under the pen name John Baines. For more information about the Institute visit http://www.ihpny.org or write to seminars@ihpny.org.







